Fuck you people, we should have our own choice to have an abortion or not. Plus I am on the internet here typing in post abortion healing and all I find is this bull shit that makes me feel ten times worse.

I’m sorry that this upset you, I truly am. I often forget that while I’m writing posts, real people are out there and are experiencing these things. I can only imagine what you’re going through right now.
I’m heavy-handed and opinionated, no doubt about that. And that means I’m going to post about what I think on certain topics, win or lose. If my opinions happen to offend you, and you don’t want to read them anymore — the Internet’s a wide place, no need in sticking around.
Nevertheless, I am beginning to think that I should temper my rants with a bit of compassion, something I’m pretty sorely lacking. I don’t make excuses for it because often times lack of compassion provides ammunition for my rants. I recognize that’s a bad thing, and in the future, I will do what I can to remember that people looking for hope and help may find my site, and if they do, I want them to find what they’re looking for, not just an angry, idealistic young man who sees most things in black and white.
‘Nuff said. Brooke, I appreciate your comment. Peace and solace only come from one place, and you’ll find that place and the Man who can provide that peace if you truly look.

Jeremiah, don’t worry about tempering your comments. Abortion is murder, plain and simple. It rips apart a baby. That’s just the plain and simple truth, and you shouldn’t have to apologize for speaking it.

True Sarah, I agree. However, I am remiss when it comes to providing a means of support for the woman who has done the deed and is looking for help.
My attitude should be more along the lines of “You’ve done this, now here’s a better way.” Condemnation without hope of redemption is a pretty sure-fire way of alienating the very people I am supposed to be reaching out to. As a Christian, if I only dole out judgment but no salvation, what good is that?

I’m pro-choice and pro-life, and I understand that there are several different reasons someone would consider abortion as an alternative to carrying a child to term. No matter what the reason, however, like all decisions that affect social perspective, there exists the possibility that someone will not agree with you.
However, when someone chooses espouse a healthy respect for human life, I believe they’re right.
So, bravo Jeremiah. I applaud you for not whitewashing your opinion.
Rather than childishly flaming Jeremiah’s website and right to respect human life and, Brooke should have given us links, provided us a means to view her perspective, and perhaps gain greater understanding into her situation.
And no matter what you believe, the sight of little paper valentines to aborted children (reminiscent of fund-raising campaign “your-name-here” pamphlets papering the walls of grocery and tape rental stores) is not only sad, but eerie, and, I believe, more appropriate for a therapeutic center for Post-Abortive Stress and Guilt.
The many reasons for abortion aside, the little valentines do seem to promote a beautification of the idea of abortion; an attempt to redefine it as a mark of female rights and independence– the glass slipper of the martyred modern woman. The clinic must have thought that by papering the clinic with valentines, the women wouldn’t feel so bad about their choice.
But why should they feel bad?
Isn’t this their choice?
Perhaps the best thing would be for the pro-abortionists to examine the cause of this immense guilt and stress that makes would-be mothers put up these valentines.
No matter what the reasons for the abortions are,
I think that what they will find is that these women feel distraught over the realization that they have ended the life of their child.

Hmmm, this is such a tumultuous topic. Some people are so black and white with their opinions, and others sway in the wind like branches adorned with leafy sails. I wonder if the people slapping down harsh opinions think about all the aspects involved in decisions of this nature. I would like to offer another dimension to this discussion…men. Don’t men abort children and families all the time? Is it less of an atrocity when a man turns his back on his partner and leaves them to a life of struggle? A man can walk away from his partner, leaving her with a part of him inside her and no one really even frowns on it. Granted he doesn’t have to make the heart-wrenching, life altering decisions determining the life of those he’s left in his wake. Maybe if the carrying of embryos/feti were shared, he might not be so free to walk away unscathed. Please don’t say, ‘but he doesn’t choose to end a pregnancy.’ In a way, he does. He leaves a woman, or a GIRL alone, frantic at times, scared, confused, judged by others and overloaded with responsibility and decisions. I’m not pointing any fingers or establishing in my discussion any blame or judgment. I’m just asking what role you think men play in the abortion issue. Please don’t throw Bible scripture at me. I’d like to know your opinion, and not that of someone else, including God.

Where the life of a child is concerned, I prefer not to lapse into shades of grey.
If you want to drag men into all of this, that’s cool. However, it was my understanding that men didn’t give birth. Therefore, the person responsible for the decision to either abort, or birth the child, would logically be the mother.
Certainly, men “arbort” their families all the time. The family as a cohesive, 2-parent unit may “die.” However, there are alternatives for the family to “rebuild”– the mother can marry again, or receive support from a network of people, including her family.
Per, “A man can walk away from his partner, leaving her with a part of him inside her and no one really even frowns on it,” (and there really are people who care, believe it or not) perhaps this is reason enough not to drag men into this, and to, again, turn to the mother.
If you want to be philosophical about it, connect men deserting their families and “taking a part of the woman away from her forever” to women aborting their children.
Just remember to include that when the woman aborts the child, she is destroying a part of herself as well.

Carla, while I agree with you that men should be held responsible for their actions, including the scenarios you’ve outlined, I think that the issue at stake here is PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY, that is, for both the man and the woman. In that sense, each is (or should be) beholden to themselves to live responsibly.
That the woman got pregnant in the first place is, nine times out of ten, the result of irresponsibility – just because abortion offers a way out of acknowledging that responsibility (for both men and women), doesn’t mean that it is right.
The fact is, abortion is just one more link in the chain of people trying to loose themselves of personal responsibility and use the system to allow themselves to justify their wrong actions. Take that for what it’s worth, but at some point, you have to draw the line in the sand and say, “Enough is enough. I choose to take a stand now.”
When you say that a man helps choose abortion – you’re absolutely right. But then look what you say: He leaves a woman, or a GIRL alone, frantic at times, scared, confused, judged by others and overloaded with responsibility and decisions.
Um, no offense, but the women’s movement hasn’t come all this way because of attitudes like that. Yes, women put into those situations experience all those things, but it eventually all comes down to personal responsibility. Abortion is simply abbrogation by proxy.